Editor’s Note: The following letters are part of a series of cases featured as cross-cultural communication.
Wang Feng is a Chinese student who is now studying in USA. Before going abroad, his English teacher David from Canada, who is currently teaching in one of Chinese universities,once taught Wang Feng oral English.
It has been a few weeks since I arrived at my new school, and I have found some difficulties in adjusting to my new life in America. The other day I met a new American friend and when I shook his hand he pulled it away a little fast, or so I thought. While we were clasping hands it felt like he was going to crush my hand but I didn't give any pressure at all and my friend had an odd face after he let go of my hand. And then he and his other friends started telling me that I am not a man. Why did he and his friends react like this, I don't really understand, did I do something wrong?
Oh something else happened, some people invited me to a party and we were supposed to meet together at a park and then go on from there, but I was really late. When I finally arrived they had left a note behind telling me where they had gone. I felt a little sad because they didn't wait for me. I couldn't call them because I still don't have a cell phone and there was no
way to contact them. How should I apologize and make sure that they aren't made at me?
I hope you are having a good time in China and I look forward to hearing back from you.